This article made me think of that conversation we had about the joys of having one's own space. Imagine having that AND being happily married.
I wouldn't want an entire home separate from S's, but from our limited experience, having some spaces to ourselves within our home does make things a LOT easier. Especially if one is fastidious about things like sopping wet bathmats and trash on the floor, and the other is not.
I used to have my own study! I loved that. Pre-kids, of course.
ReplyDeleteThis line gave me pause: "Now we have no rules; each day we decide what we’re going to do that night, whether separate or alone."
That sounds hard. Every day you figure out what you're going to do. Every day is potentially a negotiation. Every day you're juggling what you want with what your partner wants.
Maybe this is terribly boring of me, but part of what I like about marriage is stability and certainty. I can assume lots of things about our daily lives. We can share household management chores. I wouldn't want to make choices every day about where I sleep and when I feel like being together and when I feel like being alone.