Fascinating post by a gay Mormon man who has been happily married to a woman for ten years.
I had a little bit of trouble wrapping my head around "gay" and "extremely healthy and robust sex life [with someone of the opposite gender]," but understood it better when I tried to imagine whether I could have a similar relationship with a woman if I felt with all my heart that it was the "right" thing to do (another hard concept to wrap my head around). I think I could.
Metafilter has been featuring one "gay Mormon" post after another. Here's a great response.
ReplyDeleteThat's much more how I would imagine a "mixed-orientation" marriage going down. And while I'd spent some time trying to put myself in the Club Unicorn guy's shoes, I hadn't thought too much about what it must be like from his wife's perspective. Enjoying a lifetime of sex with someone of your non-preferred gender? Okay... possibly. Feeling fulfilled knowing that your partner has not one whit of physical desire for your body? That would be really hard to deal with. I'm also trying to think through what this means about the difference between "loving" someone and being "in love" with them, and the requisite emotions/desires for each.
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